|Our boards - painted in each child's favorite color - of course!|
The key to teaching your kids responsibility is consistency. I realized I lacked in this area in some ways. I've still not totally got it figured out, but this program is great because it helps me to be consistent with the kids.
|Close up of Jesse's board - our 4 year old - extra chore of cleaning the bathroom is split between all three children, each has a section that they are responsible for completing.|
A list of items that will cause a ticket to be lost is also created. These are things that will cause the child to lose an earned ticket immediately, no warning. For our family these include hitting, kicking, fighting, whining, and being disrespectful. It was a real eye-opener for the boys the first time they wanted to watch television but could not because they had lost their tickets and could not trade one in for t.v. privileges.
You also introduce the helping hand card. This makes the kids consciencely think of something nice to do for someone else during the day. My kids love each night sharing what they've done for their helping hand during the day. Many days they have more than one thing to share.
|Boys cleaning the table after eating|
My middle child struggles the most with the program (he finally just earned his first Best Behavior card today!). He has trouble thinking ahead to consequences, but even though he struggles I have seen an improvement in him too. It is just coming a little slower. And part of it is consistency on my part. I've noticed when he starts getting difficult again, it is usually because I've become a bit slack in being consistent and sticking to my guns on certain things.
Overall, this program has been wonderful for my family and we've stuck with it for over a month now. That is big for us. I will be traveling to see family in August and I'm looking forward to taking this program with me and continuing it while we are away from home.
If you are struggling to teach your children responsibility and accountability, if they are getting to the point where they feel they are entitled to things or if you are just tired and frustrated - I would highly recommend Accountable Kids. There has been some times of testing where I've been discouraged, but I chose to stick with it and I'm seeing the improvements, sometimes little, sometimes big. I find myself repeating myself less and less (and if I do it is usually because I'm not being consistent with the program) and I'm finding it so much easier to get the kids to clean up after themselves and help keep the house clean. I'm actually able to spend time with my kids now and focus on them. In the past I was always thinking in the back of my mind about all the things I still needed to do. They have more confidence and I am less stressed and exhausted. And I'm seeing more cooperation between the kids. It is Amazing! A definite God-send for my family
|Tyler vacuuming the front living room|
Note: By doing this post I'm taking advantage of another wonderful part of this program. Currently if you write a blog review of the program you can get a "rebate" on part of your original purchase price. I would be writing a review either way and in fact I had already posted about our initial experience last month here. How amazing is that?!